A Wllingness to Speak Up
Facilitated By Venus Johnson
July 26, 2024
I was working out in a small gym in a strip mall. I saw a middle-aged woman yelling and berating young woman about hitting her car in the parking lot just outside the gym door. The first woman was clearly angry and the second woman was clearly scared and paralyzed while seeking an escape from the aggressive behavior of the first woman. Many people in the gym saw this interaction, but no one seemed interested in helping to diffuse the situation. I stop my training session and walked outside to speak to both women by asking "What's going on?" The irrate woman launched into a very loud recap of the events that took place and continued her aggressive behavior toward the young woman. I stepped in between them (instinctively) and asked her to lower her voice and tell me what she wanted to happen next. As it turns out, the first woman never asked the second woman any questions about insurance or her driving information. I able to help calm down the woman whose car was hit and move toward the process of resolving the accident. Upon have some relief from the tense situation the woman who hit the car began to cry and apologize for causing the accident. She also expressed she'd never been in an accident and didn't remember what to do. Once the situatiion became less tense other people began to join us and offer their help or guidance. I would have been fine if I had to handle that situation alone, but I felt the need to step in when one person was being really mean to another person who clearly could not handle it nor deserved it. I treat people the way I want to be treated.
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